Lady Business: Exclamation Point. PERIOD

Exclamation point. PERIOD!

By Cristina Byrne

Many superstitions circulate around the women's moon cycle, as well as myths making it harder for women to talk about it, which then leads to silence, shame, and misconception. 

"By the mid-1800s in the U.S., the culture around menstruation had hardened into a straightforward narrative: Period blood was perceived as bad blood, both dirty and shameful," says Chris Bobel, an expert on menstruation at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. 

A personal experience dealing with superstitions and Women’s moon cycle, I had the opportunity to make the infamous Italian red sauce with a first-generation family from start to finish. In the middle of this tomato sauce making experience they mentioned that if a woman is on her period, she was not allowed to participate because it will ruin the sauce for the whole year.  

Whoops!!

I leaned over to the son of the first generation Italian couple, who thankfully didn't understand much English and said, "Well, I guess the sauce will be ruined this year!"

He laughed and said, "Don't worry about it… It's over a 100-year-old superstition."

News Flash: The superstition is a bust! The sauce didn't get ruined! 

Thankfully, we have come along way with the bizarre superstitions and myths around the women's cycle, as well as advanced in the products that are used, such as the revolutionary Modibodi.

Modibodi began with the curiosity of evolving women's hygiene products. The Australian founded brand started back in 2013 but took 2 years to fine-tune and develop the period-leak proof underwear. 

Modibodi uses high quality, tech-savvy fabrics (like Bamboo, Merino Perform Wool, and Microfibre) and the latest in breathable, antimicrobial fibers with their patented Modifier Technology™ – a super slim (only 3mm) stain-resistant lining for modern periods and leaks, and Modifier Air Technology™ – a moisture-wicking, odor-fighting lining for getting sweaty.

Not only does this underwear helps us avoid the embarrassment of stains and prevent leaks that sometimes leave us making a public announcement at a rest stop bathroom asking, "Do any of my Lady Friends have a tampon?"  Because you know the machine in the bathroom where you can usually get one, is never refilled.

According to Modibodi, "On an environmental level, the average woman will use upwards of 15,000 disposable period products in her lifetime, which can take several centuries to fully decompose in a landfill."  With 51% of the U.S. population being a woman, that's a lot of waste!

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Since it is 2020 and we all should be least aware and mindful of the environmental impact that all of us have, including the use of a pad or tampon that is a "brief moment of utility." Modibodi is fully committed to preserving the planet, with products that are entirely free of PFAS chemicals and even offer a completely vegan line of briefs and bikini underwear. 

With so many options out there to help with our environmental impact in hygiene products. Still, many of us refer back to the products that we were taught to use growing up, even though there is the existence of alternatives that make more environmental and economic sense. 

I understand that sometimes change can be challenging. Still, if we are mindful and open to considering trying out something new—we might be surprised by the comfort and convenience that come with a sustainably managed period product such as Modibodi. Which by the way has been voted the #1 Period Underwear & Incontinence Underwear Brand. With the mission "to give all bodies more confidence and comfort, as well as a more sustainable solution to disposable hygiene." Not only with periods and discharge but with light bladder leakage, and weak pelvic floors to perspiration and pong, and pesky breastmilk leaks! Modibodi got you covered! PERIOD.

But the conversation is much bigger and its also about how, in 33 states, women who are on food stamps can't purchase a feminine product because those items are considered a "luxury" when really its a necessity. While using SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program) one can buy, food items including bread, fruits, vegetables, meats, fish, poultry, and dairy products…but one can’t buy toilet paper, diapers, toothpaste, shampoo, deodorant, or feminine hygiene products. Some women have reported giving up their food stamps for money to buy tampons.

In low-income areas, girls' and women's choices of menstrual hygiene materials are often limited by the costs, availability, and social norms. “Adequate sanitation facilities and access to feminine hygiene products are one part of the solution.”

So let’s create a culture that welcomes discussion and makes adequate education for women and girls is of equal importance. Change will come when the conversation changes.

Join the Modibodi Movement with their sustainable, luxuriously comfy underwear (and water repellent swimwear) ditching and use fewer tampons and liners pads but also be part of a much bigger conversation.

Modibodi's underwear is designed in a modern bikini, brief, thong, boyleg, high-waist and boy shorts styles in a variety of trendy colorways, and range across four levels of absorbency to accommodate each wearer's needs and preferences. The brand also incorporates their signature technology into leggings, maternity singlets, one-piece swimsuits, and wet/dry zipper pouches.  Check out Modibodi HERE .

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Lady Business: Ifs, Ands, & (definitely) Butts

By Larissa Nemeth

 It’s not at all like I had a choice in the matter, but let me tell you, I’m proud to be a woman. On top of that, I’m proud to be a woman who champions a healthier environment. However, therein lies a rub. As a woman, I am marketed to, CONSTANTLY. I am made to feel like the consumption of tubes, wands, gels, masks, scrubs, salves, mists, creams, sprays, lotions, and potions will somehow strengthen the edifice of my femininity. Let me say, simply, FUCK. THAT.

Anybody has basic needs to be met, required for a healthy existence. A female body is no exception. And I think it is pretty safe to say that technology for meeting those needs has come an incredibly long way throughout human history, especially when it comes to periods and feminine hygiene. Women used “menstrual rags” (origin of “on the rag” anybody?) up until the 1930s when the first disposable pads were marketed. Enter the age of waste. Not only did women need to buy a monthly supply of fluff to stuff in their panties, they also had to throw them away, and the packaging. It’s been a major bummer ever since. So, let’s do some math here. If the version of the maxi-pad as we know it today was brought on to the scene back in the ’30s, that means that almost a full century has gone by with no significant improvement to period hygiene methodology’s lame. Do you know what else is antiquated? The fact that in 33 states, tampons and pads are billed as “luxury items” and thus can’t be purchased using food stamps. That’s especially troubling watching the economy doing its ping-pong thing of late. The current situation with COVID-19 has also put a strain on the supply chain, threatening access to paper goods.

Enter Modibodi. This leak-proof line of underwear, swimwear and activewear looks fly, feels smooth, and solves problems…down there. “The average woman will spend $17,000 on period products in her lifetime, whereas she can purchase 5-7 pairs of Modibodis for as little as $132, a purchase that will see you through your periods for the next two years.” Says CEO and Founder of Modibodi, Kristy Chung. Even if you don’t get a period, chances are you’ll run into one of the other 4 P’s, ad designated by Chung: pee, periods, perspiration & pregnancy. Now, don’t get me wrong- lingerie (or string underwear, as my daughter eloquently calls it) has its place, but during most of our days, function tops form- and not that you’ll really be sacrificing much in the latter category sporting Modibodi.

My experience wearing Modibodi briefs was great for lots of reasons but mainly because I felt comfortable and because I felt like I was doing good. According to Modibodi, “On an environmental level, the average woman will use upwards of 15,000 disposable period products in her lifetime, which can take several centuries (yes, centuries) to fully decompose in a landfill”. Nasty.

We’ve all had the ads pop up on our social media, ladies. But here is in-the-flesh testimony to the wonders of waste-less periods, using Modibodi’s Modifier Technology (a super slim satin lining that absorbs up to four tampons’ worth of liquid) and Modifier Air Technology (a moisture-wicking, odor-fighting lining for sweat). The packaging is thoughtful, slim, and recyclable, and this brand is not slowing down in the face of the global pandemic; if anything, they are ramping up. They work with worldwide charities to promote awareness and reduce the stigma of periods for women, and partner with organizations like period.org, which donates pairs of these panties to those in need, including refugees at the US border.

I think the moral of this story is just because you are a woman, it doesn’t mean you have to sit atop a throne of waste. Make that throne out of your accomplishments, self-worth, opinions, knowledge, skills, love, and whatever else really lifts you up. You are worth it, and damn girl, you look good in those Modibodi panties, too!


Grit and Grace

Lissie is a woman.  She stands on the stage. Unassuming enough… but when the music gathers, she seems to draw upon some power, unseen, loose in the universe and it folds out through her mouth in the form of a song. She’s golden; she’s lithe- the best way I can describe her in action is if Mick Jagger were a ray of sunlight.  

The venue - downstairs at the World Cafe Live in Philadelphia makes for an almost coffee-house vibe (bonus was the artist playing the upstairs stage we got to catch for a minute or two on our way in and out!).  The intimacy allowed in that space really lent itself to Lissie’s artistry in songwriting and her vocal talent.

The first time I ever heard Lissie was a live performance of her song Ojai on a local indie radio station- and it stuck me. I had teared up by the final notes and also had found and shared it with every person I held close to my heart that I thought would receive the vibes she was expressing.  Lullaby/love-poem and break-up with a geographical location balled all in one. Her delivery was like honey mixed with desert sand.

Live in person, she summoned the same grit and grace.  Her voice powerful and her songs meaningful. I spent a lot of the set simply entranced by her sheer talent.  She also had an incredibly strong backing band with a fierce-ass female for the guitar and one on bass as well.

She was coy about playing her newly released songs, but the truther was while they are a bit different style-wise they blended quite smoothly into her existing body of work. The new album, Castles, she suggests be listened to with shuffle OFF (gasp)- and played from beginning to end like a story and preferably on vinyl  

She closed the show by inviting the audience into her space,  sitting on the edge of the stage and eventually bounding out into the crowd during “Little Lovin’ off Catching a Tiger. It was a revival-esque finale, complete with clapping, dancing, harmonies, call-and-answer and of course- jumping.

As the lights came up people were momentarily stunned- murmurs of “she was… AMAZING” and general awe bubbled up.  I left assured in my understanding that there is music in Lissie’s marrow, and it was very cool to share that with her.

Words by Larissa Nemeth | Stills by Cristina Byrne

“We Resist, We Persist, We Rise"

It was early on Election Day 2016, but I was heading to bed — the stress of the day and its implications rested heavily on me.  Fearful, I checked the earliest stats — exit polls, numbers starting to roll in... it was exactly then that I knew we were fucked.  The following day was spent mourning.  The next had me asking — to myself and aloud; in earnest — how do we fix this?

Fast forward to present day: DIBS attends the 2018 Women’s March in Philadelphia with special correspondent, 9-year-old Vivienne Grant. At our core we are strong, independent females with an enlightened worldview that takes into account the multi-colored strands that different nationalities, genders, and ideologies weave into a beautiful society. These threads are all currently being laid bare and actively threatened under our current administration.

I can’t speak for the entire DIBS team here, but I do not actually believe that protests “do” anything.  I don’t think demolition teams spare certain trees because someone chains themselves to them, and I don’t think you could say the length of the Vietnam war was shortened due to non-violent peace rallies or sit-ins. However, I do believe they are not only important, but absolutely vital in order to keep a sense of what is occurring deep in the dug-in roots of society. The only way to get the Suits who run the show to listen if you can’t afford to buy an ear.

To reiterate what Trump said, it was a beautiful day to get out and march.  An odd 50-degree day in January (the one-year anniversary of his inauguration), DIBS would have to accept that.

We were on the move!

We followed the flow of the crowd towards the art museum steps and with mini-reporter Vivienne on hand she scrambled and squeezed her way to the front near the stage — she persisted! — the two, grown reporters, awkwardly shuffling through behind.  Speeches and music were presented which highlighted many reasons to be invigorated into action and raising a voice.  

What was most striking to me was the beautiful mosaic of people, signs and reasons why the thousands of people were there.  I noticed an extraordinary amount of variation on themes for the day: empowerment, acceptance, equality, among other things. Each person’s attendance seemed to be as unique as their own thumbprint or strand of their DNA.

On the way back we raised the question- Why are YOU here today?

A group of young women and men cited simply “Equality.”

Our small helper on-hand, Vivienne, mentioned disaster relief for Puerto Rico (also the subject of a speech by Beatrice Sanabria-Caraballo).

Two young women mentioned being there to represent Haitians.

“Lending support to women,” an older gentleman said.

A woman who had not been drawn out to dissent since the protests against the Vietnam war mobilized for the women’s march because she is “against silence.”

A seated woman said she was there because she wanted to “be among a group of women who empower [her].”

A woman held a sign with a mirror asking march attendees to recognize how they were complicit and said the best way to combat this is by listening to marginalized groups.

The array of answers we gathered provided evidence for the need for a march of this kind whose slogan was “We Resist, We Persist, We Rise”. The march was hardly the period at the end of a sentence; It was all of us, pushing hard against a door to get it to budge open — process started in the wake of the election last year. By doing this, all of us are creating an opening to allow for discourse on change; POSITIVE change. Let me tell you, looking forward, I can start to see the light shining through that entryway.

Words by Larissa Nemeth | Images by Cristina Byrne